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dogs act different with different people
  • Do you guys ever feel like your family fulfills different roles for your Shiba? For example, I will try to get Kioshi to play at night after I've been at work but he never is interested for more than a few seconds. But then my husband comes home and he suddenly loves to play. With me Kio loves to cuddle, if he is in a cuddly mood it is usually me he comes to. Anyone else have experiences like this? I know its silly and giving human emotions, but we joke that he likes to snuggle his mommy and rough house with dad.
    Post edited by Calia at 2011-12-06 00:36:54
  • LosechLosech
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    Yes. Conker acts differently with every single person he meets. I can somewhat predict how he will react to someone and I'm getting better at it so I am able to avoid putting him into situations that'll freak him out.

    Conker used to hate my Mom. Well, not really hate, but he for sure didn't like her. He would bark, growl and sometimes even show teeth at her. It took him several months to quit doing that and now he likes her a bit.
    Conker is indifferent to my little sister. He likes but doesn't love her. She doesn't really do much with him though.
    He likes my older sister since she provokes him into games.
    Conker's not too fond of my younger-taller brother since he will chase, catch and harass him, but he will give cheese to Conker (cheese = love) and play with him on occasion so it's one of those I like you but I don't like you relationships.

    His favorite though (other than me, of course) is my youngest brother. Conker LOVES Teddy. The moment Teddy gets home from school Conker is there and asking to play. Teddy will play with Conker, pet him, roll around with him, do all sorts of fun things. Those two are amazing together. Teddy will lay on the ground and cuddle with Conker, something he doesn't really do with me except at night, and Conker is very good about adjusting his play style with Teddy so he's not too rough.
    It's really gonna suck for them when I move out.
  • catloreecatloree
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  • Stef777Stef777
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    Kendaux will only lay/cuddle with me and always shows me the biggest greeting even if I walk through the door with a few people. He does seem to enjoy playing with my boyfriend more though
  • Benita kind of loves everyone! I only have seen her bark or growl at a few strange people and to my husbands father. I always joke around that if a burglar came in she will greet him with a lot of excitement! She loves when people come over and she loves to received them and take toys to them so they play with her. Of course she will enjoy more rough playing with my husband, than with me trying to hug her when she is not in the mood (if you know what I mean) at night she loves to cuddle and we always pet her for a long time as she falls asleep. When we visit my parents she loves my dad (he always gives her treats, cheese and all kind of things) but when my little brother (18 not so little) walks in she gets crazy stars jumping and doing weird noises when we go home I could swear she misses him.
  • Tajihemmer-Your Benita sounds just like my Kishi. She is absolutely in love with everyone no matter what. She does tend to cuddle with me more but I think she has learned that my husband does not like to cuddle(one of the reasons I chose this breed as to not drive my husband crazy with a velcro type dog :)
  • BootzBootz
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    Bumping this thread!!!

    So recently my husband noticed that Bootz has become more aggressive on her walks. This is on walks that are ONLY my husband and Bootz. He notice she started barking/growling baring teeth at dogs that are within sight....even lunging if they are close. I've asked him if he gets tense or anything, but my husband said no. He acts normal.

    The odd thing is, when I'm walking Bootz myself, or walking with Bootz and my husband...she never shows this behavior. We just notice it recently and was wondering if anybody had any idea or experienced the same thing.

    Thanks!
  • redcattooredcattoo
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    Hmmm, interesting that something has changed in how Bootz perceives the walk when you are not there. Sorry, no insights though.
  • catloreecatloree
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  • BootzBootz
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    @catloree, I guess its kind of a relief to know another owner is going through the same thing. I just find it odd since she would see the same dog and act differently when shes with me....and when shes with my husband. The other dog probably thinks she's bipolar!
  • kagurarapkagurarap
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    Tali is the same way - she comes to me for cuddling and when she plays, I find that she's not as rough whereas with my bf he plays around more rough with her and she'll tend to start mouthing more with him than me. I also feel like she obeys me more in certain (most) cases whereas there are some cases where she'll ignore me but listen to him because he has this look where she must sense that he's not playing around. I also think it depends on the relationship the dog has with each person. My cousin just met my dog and she loved her because my cousin was all spoiling/hugging/petting. And in spite of Tali being a "I love everyone" kind of dog, a man tried to pet her the other day and it was the first time I ever saw her yelp and run away, like she did not want this guy to touch her - which surprised me bc she usually lets all kinds of strangers shower her with attention. Other than that, I haven't found a person/dog she doesn't really like unless the dog decides that it doesn't like her first, then she'll sort of get angry about it and bark back and the angry dog.
  • micomico
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    Suki does this when some dogs approach her when she's on her lead but she's fine with others. She also did it a few times when she was off her lead so unless I'm walking with owners and dogs I know or somewhere really quiet she's kept on her lead. When she's off lead I'll call her back as soon as I see a 'strange' dog in the distance. If they come over and she's fine I'll let her off again and they usually go racing over the fields together but generally I try to avoid putting myself or her in a potentially dangerous situation by changing direction even if it means a longer walk.

    I took her to the trainer I used to go to and he advised me not to react as dogs can sense when we tense up which in turn makes them more reactive which he says she is rather than aggressive.
  • Briona528Briona528
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    I noticed that Callie always barks at new people when they come to my house. If the person does not act afraid of her and pets her, she is completely fine and stops barking. But if the person acts afraid of her, Callie will continue to bark at the person incessantly. I think she can sense if a person is afraid of her or not. I always tell people to pet her and talk to her but unless they are completely at ease, Callie is not.
  • tatonkatatonka
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  • RikkaRikka
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  • micomico
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    @Rikka and tatonka - Suki does the same. We were at a show yesterday and she was getting lots of admiring glances - shibas are rare here - but her body language and stance said look but don't even think about stroking me, I'm a superior shiba.

    While the kids were looking at a stall a man with Downs syndrome and his carer walked towards us, the man was really animated and gesturing in our direction. Suki was watching and when they came alongside she sat down and let him pet her (she hates having her head stroked). He touched her ears, which she also hates, and tail but she didn't move even though he was getting a bit rough in an enthusiastic not nasty way. The stallholder was also watching and after they'd gone said it was as if she knew there was something different about the man because her facial expression had been completely different.
  • ShibaLoveShibaLove
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    @Bootz Regarding Bootz getting aggressive on walks with your husband only. It sounds like what redcattoo and catloree were suggesting, that for some reason Bootz feels the need to protect more with your husband. Maybe you have more of a leadership role and she doesn't feel the need to step up with you. The only thing I could think to try is have him distract her on walks. I would have him walk her with a bag of treats and as they approach other dogs do they "Bootz watch me" and keep rewarding her for paying him attention and not the other dogs. Maybe that would desensitize her to reacting to another dog and just learn to pay attention to him. Good luck.
  • tatonkatatonka
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  • RikkaRikka
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  • Ginger seems to only love me if I have food.

    Which is often a funny thing we talk about since my boyfriend didnt really want her, and I did. And now he absolutely loves her, and shes crazy about him.
    When he leaves for work she cries and cries. If I leave, she barely takes notice.

    She listens to my commands and I have been the one to mostly train and take care of her. I want to play with her, but it doesnt seem she expresses the same.

    Once he is home, she is hopping up, running around, biting his legs (mouthing) and they roll and play and he will lay on the floor for a while to hang out with her even though he is tired. Sometimes when he is home she will decide to include me in play. But aside from that she's just very chill with me. It kind of makes me sad.

    She also does this thing where if she sees someone, be it child or stranger...
    HOLY FUCKING SHIT I NEED THAT PERSON TO LOVE ON ME RIGHT NOW

    and she loses her mind!! she bounces on them, kisses, whining, nuzzling, nippping, playing everything. Its a funny sight, but it kind of makes me a little sad that she doesnt react THAT excited to either of us... and I dont understand it.
  • jherb415jherb415
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  • Bump...

    So I had a fiasco with the dog walker while I was out of town so my neighbors (who have a golden retriever) was kind enough to take care of Banjo for me.

    Our dogs are BFFs. They play together, walk together, we go to the park together, etc. My neighbors, a couple, adore Banjo. He seems to like them more than me... he was cuddling with both of them and when I got home after not seeing him for two days, he didn't even get out of his crate (although he was apparently super excited to see them every day). Later in the evening we all went for a walk together and he tried to follow them home.

    WTF??!


  • FrillfaceFrillface
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    Denso loves me, I am his favorite. But he would rather follow or play with my boyfriend.
    He likes my boyfriend's grandmother for treats as well.
    Otherwise he is scared of people still. But he does show different interests with the few people he knows!

    He also shows different reactivity to strangers he is scared of. Sometimes he'll bark at one person, out of the 20+ he sees. Sometimes he'll run from someone approaching, etc etc. He is like this with cars too; some he's scared of but most he isn't.

    He's just weird :)
  • BootzBootz
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    @BanjoTheBetaDog

    #1 - you have a shiba
    #2 - you're an "old toy" to him (unfortunately)
    #3 - you have a shiba!!!!

    Lol!! :))
  • @bootz, everyone keeps telling me my dog hates me! He is sooo much more excited to see everyone than he is me... I am starting to believe it!

    Post edited by BanjoTheBetaDog at 2015-08-11 10:48:24
  • imBLASIANimBLASIAN
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    Ponyo is wayyyyyyyyyy more excited to see new people than my husband and I. Yesterday I brought a coworker home to meet her and Ponyo zipped past me to go jump and say hi to the new person. It took her 5 minutes to even notice i was there :'(
  • Kira_KiraKira_Kira
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  • BootzBootz
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    @BanjoTheBetaDog

    @Rikka 's Sagan is the same way, as Kira mentioned. Don't be sad. It's normal.
  • AntoinetteAntoinette
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    @Kira_Kira-My little boy Quake used to be like Kira in that he would always be really excited to see me when I got home (adorable airplane ears, running around with a toy in his mouth, and would sound a little play growl if I was late by a few minutes all the while with his tail wagging and happy. A couple of weeks before his separation anxiety started I did notice he was even WAY MORE excited to see me and I had no idea that could be a sign of separation anxiety. Also at that time as I was leaving he had started going to the door and trying to stand in front of it instead of backing off away from the door like he always had. However, at the time he was not whining or crying when I left.

    The behavior escalated very quickly and on July 15 he had his first episode of destructive behavior due to the separation anxiety. He is making progress with the help of the behaviorist trainer and my following her instructions and working with him. I am glad I realized what was happening before the separation anxiety reached a sever stage. I am glad to be researching the subject in order to be more aware of triggers that could result in separation anxiety.

  • RikkaRikka
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    Post edited by Rikka at 2015-08-24 15:00:43
  • @rikka I feel like I own a cat that can't use a litter box.
  • RikkaRikka
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  • Kira_KiraKira_Kira
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  • @Kira_Kira, is there a "I hate you" emoji =)
  • Kira_KiraKira_Kira
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  • koyukikoyuki
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  • NikkitineNikkitine
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  • RikkaRikka
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  • Otto is cuddly on his own terms. Usually early mornings and late nights. He likes his pets when he is tired. He has a split personality and goes from super sweet to super aloof or even defiant.

    He frequently ignores us outside, in the yard or on walks. And he also is more excited to see everybody else, but we do get airplanes ears, huffing and puffing in circles and a toy gift when we get home.

    Yesterday my husband showed me a video of him asking Otto where I was (I was at work). Otto looked at the door and started whimpering. I guess the little guys misses me when I'm not at home :)
  • koyukikoyuki
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  • JuniJuni
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    Juni was very independent and feisty as a pup but she is pretty cuddly as an adult. She loves to be carried around and she wants my company all the time. She comes and gets me when she wants me to join her somewhere, usually it's outside on the patio but sometimes it's because she wants me to lay in the bed when she is taking a nap there.
  • BragiBragi
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    do you guys think that dogs don't like other dogs if they don't like the owner? Since koji got neutered he has been a more behaved boy, he's more calm, gets along more with other dogs, no more roaming, and will get all his pee out at once, etc. But I noticed that the dogs that he hates, they all belong to owners which always "walk with their nose up high", snobbish? he also doesn't let these people touch him, but when he sees nice people who socialize with my dog and with me, the dogs will get a long and he'll let their owners touch him.

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